why the survival of your relationship is important to me

this post is dedicated to the people who have just found love (especially this one friend). i hope you are reading this.

i always think that people are similar in some ways. though they have different believe system, feelings are feelings and love is love. People are attracted to love despite knowing that the significant other may be different and unchangeable. As in a relationship people are naturally different in many ways (i.e. gender, faith, likes and dislikes and many more), disagreement will somehow find its way in every area of the relationship.

He or she may not like the people you are friends with, despise the stupid jokes you often do, resent the way your family way of life or even feel unhappy about the toilet seat you often forgot to put down.

For a newly formed relationship, love may be the strongest factor that shades all the imperfection of the other person. That is why there is a saying in the Malay proverb that "kentut pun bau wangi" or the English translation of it " even the stinkiest fart will not bother you", Funny as it may sound but it is the truth. When one is at the beginning of a relationship everything seems unique and some would say cute. but after six month or more the ugliness could no longer be tolerated. So the only consequences is to criticise and argue (well yeah, it actually starts with mentioning about it politely, i'm just forwarding it to the next stage).

So what will you do about it? would you just ignore those criticism despite feeling pinched thinking and hearing about it? or would you actually change yourself for that one person?

That is why i intend to enlighten you with this particular post. You must have a bigger reason to have a relationship. the relationship should means something more than just love. Let me explain in detail how i see relationship. Relationship is not about just having the other person close to you it is about learning to accept differences. It is way bigger than love because it shows that there is hope that you would be a good example to the rest of us of how you make the relationship work.

i am focusing on this thing as lately, what i see in our local news are immature people hating the other person's guts not because the person did something bad like hurting someone but because the other person have differing believe in God, because they are born in a different race, because they have different lifestyle and many more. It hurts me when i see people who can't find a way to accept each other.

You might say this could not be the reason to why i think your relationship is important as you might think that it has nothing to do with the hate scenario happening around us. But in reality, it is. It has everything to do with what goes on right now. The behaviour you present in your small community, actually spreads around. If you fail your relationship just because of the reasons i mentioned above then you do not understand how important a relationship is to the community.

:) let me just say this one more time. Despite being a small piece of the community, you are the role model of the people around you. You give hope to the people around you unconsciously that there is a way to compromise with your partner even if the whole world is against you. Because I somehow believe that God does not make mistake and He made you feel that way because of a reason beyond our understanding. And i am telling you that you are not alone as i will always support you even in my prayers.