what do you do..

what would you do when a friend fails? do you let them be? or do you help to ease the degree of grieve?

For some who chose to live an ego centric life, they would deem that it is inappropriate to lift a finger. Selfish? who are we to judge? why shouldn't they be thinking of themselves? Isn't this world we live necessitate the need to be so? aren't we all looking out for our own interest?

Lets look at a different standpoint, does helping ease the pain really do good for the person? Temporarily it might, but what about the long term?. Will she /he be able to stand on his/her own if you are no longer there to hold her/his hand?

i have been pondering about this. What if the reality of help we give are actually not help after all? The reality of help we give might actually be the reason for them to not understand their weakness.

I am not crazy for thinking like this or am I? honestly, i thought that maybe i was trying to justify myself for not being more helpful. But history has taught me that helping in someone 's affair is meddling with your friendship as well.

i'm unfinished in this department of friendship. Searching for the answer of what a friend really needs and wants in the time of falling. He wants you to help him, but he may need to be left alone for him to realise his mistake.

life....